perth thread

[fat lesbian]

whether or not u believe in monogamous relationships or like eternal love is one thing but not hurting someone's feelings if u can avoid it is generally the way to go

[grue]

i dont think you can be held responsible by someone else's fidelity, the real question probably is why would you want to sleep with a guy like that

[fat lesbian]

str8 bitches for some reason usually think that if a dude cheated on a girl w them that he won't cheat on them too. as a whole they are not smart

[K-Man]

see, if two people genuinely wanna pledge their love to only one another, and their purest intentions are to only love one another, that is a true relationship and the thought of cheating would never cross either ones' minds. even if tempted, they would not feel right about even considering it let alone doing it

when someone is 'in a relationship' and is flirting with someone else, the balance becomes askew and their true 'relationship' is no longer, EVEN if they still claim to be in one and still have a bf/gf/tf

it's literally a sham, one party has eyes for only the one they're with but the other party is interested elsewhere, it's a deception on the cheater/potential cheater's part and the faithful one will inevitably get hurt. the damage is already done before the act of adultery takes place


tl;dr - their relationship is already doomed, she will already get hurt no matter what, that dude might as well bang narcissa and rip off that band-aid now

[K-Man]

thats just my opinion but its based on 15+ years experience with various relationship

if it sounds cold and cynical that's because it is and im absolutely correct about all of it

[grue]

alternatively ive met several people, more than i am comfortable accepting, that like to have a stable bf/gf they rely on and keep fishing for ass on the side

bad people

but yeah shit's complicated which is why there's no moral responsibility in "enabling" someone's cheating spree, the question is whether or not you are comfortable entangling yourself in that

[grue]

and noone can answer that for you imo

[K-Man]

its as if some (even most) relationships are not based on love or romance but on convenience, a supplementary business arrangement if you will. people who rely on their partner to supplement their needs; be it emotional, physical, financial, etc, they're in it for something/s for themself. True love would make both people completely selfless, putting the other's needs before their own because they genuinely want to do so. Cheating doesn't even exist to people who truly feel that way

[K-Man]

but yeah shit's complicated which is why there's no moral responsibility in "enabling" someone's cheating spree, the question is whether or not you are comfortable entangling yourself in that

yuppers

[Delirious Biznasty]

the answer is date girls i didn't read the rest of the post

Hey yeah, this is a great idea

[narcissa]

The fact that someone cheats on their partner isn't a confirmation on whether or not they'll do it again or not. This is not about me believing if i would get involved with someone that cheats that he wouldn't do it on me too

Generally i believe that the responsibility is 100% on the persons in the relationship because the commitment is theirs and no one else's. But obv a lottle part of me does wonder if the other person's eventual hurt would be my fault too

[narcissa]

I have been cheated on and i never placed even a tiny bit of blame on the girl or girls that happened with because they had no commitment with me. If the person that is with me doesn't have the guts to tell me it's over or there are issues and chooses to cheat it's 100% their choice and responsibility

[Delirious Biznasty]

[narcissa]

I am for open relationships and freedom of the people but i dislike those that do not own to the fact that they'd like to fuck or see other people and so they deceive their partner. This guy supposedly wanted to talk to his gf about seeing other people but i don't think he has yet, and yes, the fact that he so easily invites me over sorta says to me that their relationship doesn't have long to go

[grue]

honestly i just think it's terribly unfair that this guy gets to have his cake and eat it too when my thirsty ass is sitting here poonless and hungover but hey