Perth Thread

[grue]

Charlos here's a bit of unsolicited advice: the only problem I have with your posts is that they start from this extremely defensive position that you take even before you actually start posting. So half the time you're baiting some weird political argument that you're clearly not very invested in, or you're (like you did just now) commenting as a reaction to what you perceive someone might say.

I get that you have reasons to feel attacked but on a personal level if you allow other people to constrain your actions and thoughts you'll be always discarding your own personality as a subjugate to the personalities of other people. And that's something that, even if it was learned as a reaction to what other people are doing to you, you are now doing to yourself.

It's like, you came here to comment in response to something mean you imagined Niki would say to you, which means you're at least partly experiencing the distaste that you would really feel if Niki actually had said something. And since Niki hadn't said anything yet, that distaste came only from you.

I'm very versed in that kind of mind-trap and it's hard to disentangle but the gist of it is that bad things will happen to you enough that there's no reason for you to bring them up upon yourself on top of it.

Also, if you came here to talk about your issues and someone decided that that was a great oportunity to humiliate you further, I would mod it out because that's not nice. But usually that's not the case - usually what I see you doing is baiting an argument. Maybe you do it because you expect it to happen anyway. But that circles back to what I was saying before, right?